<3 Ms. S <3

6 days ago

NEVER CAuGHT LACKING LACKEY.

THIS uSER. LACKS NOTHING.

@abstinentCabaret[AC]

~~(__^·> anon says <·^__)~~ "I feel like im not being blackrom enough when I check in on my (wanna be) partner after pailing, she brought it up as not super blackrom of me and I dunno Like obviously I hate her but, doesnt mean I hate her all the time, is that fucked up? I dont wanna vacillate but i think I am? Or, fuckin some middle thing between love and hate that is both but neither. " ~~(__^·> a CLASSIC conundrum <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> is aftercare a red activity? <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> to mama? never, a completely neutral act <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> few solutions to this problem <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> mamas view on this, blackrom is not about killing each other, not about disabling each other, not about making each other feel less than a person <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> no one should walk away from a black exchange feeling like hot ass straight from the pot, a black relationship is a journey of inspiration after all <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> ask if this is a self hatred thing <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> this impacts warmbloods a lot, using black romance as a form of self harm <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> make sure this isnt a playful complaint, make sure everythings alright with her upstairs <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> if this is a genuine problem with how she views the relationship ask what you should be doing, express to her that hating her doesnt mean you dont see her as a person at the end of the night <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> if you do think youre vacillating this isnt something to be ashamed of <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> these things are complicated <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> if sometimes you swing red tell her <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> its a good conversation to have, saves a whole lotta pain <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> ask her to give you more reasons to hate her, find them yourself or indulge in the complexities, go for the switch ups, it can be exciting <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> nuclear option? invest in a middle leaf, see what someone closer has to say <·^__)~~ ~~(__^·> #mamasquadadmice <·^__)~~ https://forms.gle/Hj9qAt3Md41pJLjS9