D --> #nsfw D --> I think one of the greatest skills one can learn and hone when it comes to the bedroom is how to be sneaky when asking for consent D --> While asking for consent in a direct way is not always a bad thing, and especially works great for more vanilla activities, especially with a new partner D --> Repeatedly asking "Can I do X" or "Can I do Y" can end up taking someone out of the scene you are trying to create for them when doing something more intensive D --> It is better to instead, for instance, make the act of asking for consent also an act of teasing D --> "You're going to 100k so cute when I X" or "I wonder what sounds you will make when I Y" D --> This way your partner is able to know what is about to happen in advance, and is given an opportunity to say no before you try something that may be new or different D --> But they are allowed to stay fully immersed within the scenario without having to say anything "out of character" in order to allow what is going to happen D --> Though if you wished for a more direct verbal confirmation D --> Might I suggest making them beg for it instead D --> In that scenario all they can still choose to say no openly to the suggestion itself, breaking the scene if needed, or they can choose to "fail" at or refuse the act of begging, thus prompting a response of doing something else, often in the form of some kind of punishment but not necessarily D --> It is of course always best to get a feel for your partner and what will work with them D --> But I find often with new partners, using these sorts of sneaky consent requests to learn what they like or don't like is a useful t001 to have D --> It helps keep the mood in place even while navigating the tricky field of se%001 preferences