#therapytip 0002: hea|ing and rec[]very is a n[]n-|inear pr[]cess. when y[]u've g[]ne thr[]ugh s[]mething traumatic, such as abuse []r addicti[]n []r any number []f []ther circumstances, it's imp[]rtant t[] remind y[]urse|f that m[]ving f[]rward isn't as simp|e as "taking []ne step at a time" s[]metimes y[]u are g[]ing t[] trip, fa|| d[]wn, get scared and run backwards, []r try t[] take t[][] many steps at []nce and burn y[]urse|f []ut. these are a|| parts []f the pr[]cess []f figuring []ut y[]ur []wn pace. y[]u have t[] be patient with y[]urse|f and remember that, as difficu|t as it might be t[] interna|ise, y[]u aren't g[]ing t[] be the same pers[]n y[]u were bef[]re it a|| happened there are s[]me things that m[]st pe[]p|e w[]u|dn't c[]nsider t[] be traumatic. chr[]nic stress is traumatic. receiving c[]rp[]ra| punishment in y[]ur y[]uth is traumatic. |iving paycheque t[] paycheque is traumatic. a|| []f these things are []ften viewed as just a n[]rma| part []f |ife f[]r s[] many pe[]p|e and it never even cr[]sses their minds t[] w[]nder why s[]me things are harder f[]r them than []ther pe[]p|e trauma wi|| change wh[] y[]u are, and that's []kay. y[]u w[]n't kn[]w h[]w t[] navigate the w[]r|d as this new pers[]n at first, and that's []kay, t[][]. it's a|s[] []kay t[] fee| grief and fear kn[]wing that rec[]very w[]n't be easy. what matters is finding a supp[]rt netw[]rk that wi|| he|p y[]u when y[]u stumb|e. trying t[] hea| []n y[]ur []wn is []n|y g[]ing t[] make the pr[]cess that much m[]re difficu|t. vu|nerabi|ity and asking f[]r he|p is n[]t a weakness, n[] matter what any[]ne te||s y[]u
