#therapytip 0001: y[]u can []n|y c[]ntr[]| h[]w y[]u |ive y[]ur []wn |ife. y[]u may have the best []f intenti[]ns when trying t[] he|p s[]me[]ne e|se with theirs, but y[]u may n[]t a|ways kn[]w the fu|| st[]ry behind what they're g[]ing thr[]ugh and the advice y[]u try t[] impart t[] them may n[]t be what they rea||y need in a simi|ar vein, y[]u're n[]t resp[]nsib|e f[]r any[]ne wh[] d[]esn't take y[]ur he|p/advice. wanting t[] be s[]me[]ne's supp[]rt pi||ar is a|| we|| and g[][]d, but y[]u can't be eXpected t[] sh[]u|der a|| []f their pr[]b|ems whi|e they make n[] attempt t[] fiX them. y[]u can []n|y successfu||y he|p s[]me[]ne wh[] actua||y wants t[] be he|ped y[]u have t[] remember t[] set and maintain y[]ur []wn b[]undaries t[] av[]id burn[]ut []r bec[]ming []ver|y c[]ntr[]||ing []f s[]me[]ne e|se. it's []ften better t[] appr[]ach s[]me[]ne g[]ing thr[]ugh a difficu|t situati[]n with questi[]ns rather than statements. |et them eXpress what they're fee|ing and thinking and eXperiencing bef[]re y[]u jump t[] c[]nc|usi[]ns ab[]ut what y[]u think they need. this he|ps them fee| heard and he|ps y[]u understand where they need the m[]st supp[]rt