how do you guys apologise to someone for fucking up?
Whatever you do, DO NOT look at the dash for advice. #dashwatching
Never admit fault.
=oXO depends on what you did, but generally a solid "i,m sorry, i didn,t intend for this to get out of hand, what can i do to make this right¿" seems to work often¿ =oXO
First what y-o-o-u g-o-o-tta d-o-o- is ADMIT y-o-o-u fucked up, then y-o-o-u g-o-o-tta ACKN-O-O-WLEDGE that the fucked up thing y-o-o-u did was actually detrimental t-o-o- physical/mental/em-o-o-ti-o-o-nal health -o-o-f the pers-o-o-n y-o-o-u're ap-o-o-l-o-o-gizing t-o-o--o-o-. EXPRESS REM-O-O-RSE AND WILLINGNESS T-O-O- ACT T-O-O- C-O-O-RRECT! N-O-O-W! Put it all t-o-o-gether!!!! ie; "I am s-o-o-rry that I didn't call y-o-o-u after I f-o-o-und -o-o-ut I was getting in after light. I understandstand that y-o-o-u have specific traumas ab-o-o-ut radi-o-o- silence after this time and I t-o-o-tally didn't f-o-o-ll-o-o-wup because I was still s-o-o-re fr-o-o-m -o-o-ur c-o-o-nversati-o-o-n this evening. It wasn't kind -o-o-f me t-o-o- use that against y-o-o-u and g-o-o-ing f-o-o-rward I w-o-o-n't let a petty argument ab-o-o-ut dishes wedge itself between -o-o-ur c-o-o-mmunicati-o-o-n again. Is there anything I can d-o-o- n-o-o-w t-o-o- help make y-o-o-u feel better?"
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i tried that, but i don't think i can make this right
i wrote it much more simply, but i think i basically did that. no matter. if ignoring me is better for them than anything i could do to make them feel better, i'm not gonna push them
The m-o-o-st imp-o-o-rtant part is t-o-o- give them time with their feelings t-o-o- pr-o-o-cess. If they accept. Yay! D-o-o- better next time. If they d-o-o-nt accept. Aw. D-o-o- better next time.