... I realise that my vaguery has made the misunderstanding a little wider. Apologies. Someone posted an advocacy for increased mandatory pailing, one which I, hopefully reasonably, expected that a person who had been living on Alternia wouldn't have. I asked if they were Beforan. This was merely because I had assumed that, perhaps living in a culture without enforced pailing, they might make the mistake of advocating for it. Apologies to any Beforans I may have insulted with this implication. Turns out the person was in fact Alternian and simply wrong. #nsfw mentions.
Oh, I see, it’s a ‘no one ever taught them to think before they post’ situation.
Mmhm. I am also realising now that they may have in fact been fishing for derision and I have played into their hands. Ugh. That's what I get, I suppose.
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It’s not your fault. It would be courteous if people were more upfront about their kinks and what they want so people don’t want to engage don’t do so unwittingly, but I’m aware that will never happen, so even intelligent trolls like you will get snared occasionally.
Apparently. To each their own, I guess....
Heaven forfend I want a chance to ramble about the role of Moraillegiance in the empire as a tool of oppression. At least I didn't get the classic "oh so you think having a moirail is evil?" Because I've had that often. No, just because something was invented as a structure for oppression doesn't mean that that is its only purpose. I myself have had moirails. I have much love in my pusher, and it is a good and useful label. Sigh.
I’m glad you recognize that, actually. Moirallegiance can be loving, but the more people who understand that - like every other quadrant - it also has a specifically engineered social and propagandistic purpose, the more thoughtful they can be in their own relationship choices.
Indeed. I have many thoughts on the system. But at the end of the day, we are all living within it, and it is not evil to use the language of control to speak of something kinder. Although admittedly, I am perhaps biased as a chronic quad-smearer. Sometimes the words simply aren't all there for the emotions inside. Provided yourself and those you're with are in agreement, use or do not use whatever words you like.
It is not. Ha ha. Yes. I do not think quad smearing is bad unless it goes against established agreement. Language can be very imprecise.
Absolutely. Communication is vital. Labels are only as important as they are relevant to the communication.