Can an individual properly versed on the subject of auspisticism give me the crash course on how it works in practice, before I make an absolute fool of myself? Because I wouldn't know if I was even on the auspisticism SPECTRUM. Let alone on the dot.
ngl i missred this as autism spectrum an was about 2 pull out a 90 slide long presentation
ME. IM THE EXPERT. LET ME TYPE IT UP
:o) Auspisticism, at its baseline, is a quadrant of calming down those who would enter otherwise unhealthy relationships :o) Usually, this is utilized for the caliginous quadrant pairings but flush is also not unheard of, and I've seen one or two for pale, though that one is VERY uncommon. :o) The general deal is that when two members of the three leaf collide, they may cause problems for themselves or others should they enter into a relationship. :o) Example: :o) Troll A and Troll B wish to enter a caliginous waltz. This would be problematic, as Troll A already has a kismesis, and this would create infidelity- however, the pull of Troll B is merely too much to resist! What is Troll A to do? :o) Enter Troll C, who sees this and decides to mediate between A and B. They prevent the caliginous pair by creating the ashen throuple. Date night activities include talking through feelings, establishing boundaries and engaging in peaceable activities such as movie night discussions and dinner dates. :o) This can be utilized to prevent infidelities, murders and more! :o) Any questions?
:o) I am very passionate about the subject of... quadrants.
Auspisticism is the practice øf maintaining a heałthy, ør at the very łeast functiønał, bałance between kismeses via yøur invøłvement. ¥øur task is tø prevent either øf the twø frøm tøppłing their błackrøm intø straight-up murder and/ør sełf-sabøtage, and in the prøcess høpefułły imprøve the nature øf their rełatiønship ałtøgether. There’s much møre than that, but reałły what yøu øught tø dø and høw is very dependent øn whø yøu are auspisticizing.
What if you're one of the parties being intervened on.
Auspisticism is, at its core, a quad entirely dedicated to the cultivation of a healthy bond between two others who are in their own quad. Traditionally, this is in the pitch quad but REAL connoisseurs know it can work with any non ashen quad. In pitch relationships, it's all about making sure their hate remains in the realm of healthy rivalry. They can frustrate each other, slap each other around, but its BAD if the hate becomes true malice. Mediating this is about reminding them of the good (if frustrating traits) of their partner and WHY they were so compelled in the first place. Pale quadmates rarely need mediating, as they tend to be more open with each other than others, but it can happen. This one's all about reigniting the feelings of safety they inspired in each other, why they had each other's back no matter what, and finding why they're drifting apart. Flush quadmates have the problem of vascillating pitch. If that's what they both want, no problem, but it's often one sided and can explode. Here, it's about identifying what they found admirable in each other, made them head over heels for each other. To find again the warmth of their touch, the joy of their lips. The closeness of their pusher to yours. If you can't manage to make two partners stabilize back to how they were, it is your duty to advocate for their separation on healthy and equal terms if possible. Navigate their frustrations and hurt with them, assure them that they can still find happiness and joy, or hate and rivalry I suppose, without necessarily being together. And that it doesn't have to be the other's fault, or that you at least don't have to Harbor a grudge forever. The appeal of the quadrant I would say is the intimacy. Accepting someone to mediate you means letting someone see your most private and vulnerable self, your weaknesses and your problems that you keep secret from everyone but your partner. Being let into someone's life like that, so closely and privately, is a very special connection between three people. It's something that I've never been able to get out of any other quad quite the same way. It's very beautiful and touching, to be able to touch the pushers in minds of two people like that and hopefully tangibly improve their lives and joy with your own touch. It's just something else. If you ever give it a try, I hope you enjoy it. But it's not for everyone, and I know that.
Then yøu øught tø łisten earnestły tø what is being said and suggested by yøur third party, because it’s usuałły ałways being døne øut øf cønsideratiøn før bøth yøu and yøur current partners’ wełłbeing. Øther cømmenters have given stełłar øverviews øf the quadrant, but it may be difficułt tø understand as a rømantic dimensiøn; rest assured these actiøns are being taken øut øf a desire tø see yøu bøth fułfiłłed in yøur rełatiønship.
... Ahem. I may have misrepresented my position within the dynamic. Actually. I'm going to direct message you.