@handMaid In the spirit 9f inf9rmed c9nsent, and 6ecause I kn9w as my friend that y9u respect me and w9uld certainly never d9 anything t9 rile me up 9r irritate me 9n purp9se, I'll answer y9ur questi9ns in as g99d 9f faith as p9ssi6le. Since n9t every9ne is familiar with what it means t9 6e celi6ate, I understand there may 6e s9me "edge cases" that require further ela69rati9n, lest 9ne accidentally cr9sses a limitati9n with9ut meaning t9. I'm answering this in the f9rm 9f a separate chitt and n9t a reply f9r any9ne else wh9 happens t9 visit my page in the interest 9f answers. The f9ll9wing is an in-depth elucidati9n 9f my th9ughts 9f my 9wn 69undaries. #Celi6acy manifests differently f9r every9ne wh9 decides t9 pledge themself t9 this lifestyle, s9 I d9 n9t intend t9 speak f9r every9ne, 9r even f9r 9ther Kankris. D9 n9t take this as an invitati9n t9 test these 69undaries, especially if we are n9t already acquainted. #NSFW and #ImpliedNSFW warning applies t9 all text f9ll9wing this line. 1, 2, 3, 17. N9. 4. I really can't imagine why I w9uld 6e in this situati9n t9 6egin with. 6ut this is als9 a n9. Directly aiding in s9me9ne else's sexual gratificati9n is as much 9f a vi9lati9n 9f my celi6acy as receiving sexual gratificati9n fr9m s9me9ne else. 5. I can't imagine why I w9uld 6e in this situati9n either. 6ut I supp9se if a friend 9f mine really, really wanted t9 have their windchute internally stimulated, and if there is n9 genital c9ntact happening whats9ever, and my hyp9thetical partner and I remained fully cl9thed, then I might p9ssi6ly 6e c9nvinced t9 9ffer a hand. 6. This is t99 vague f9r me t9 9ffer an 9pini9n 9n, s9rry. Unless 6y fr9nd stuff y9u mean handh9lding. Then sure. 7, 8. As a #Sexp9sitive #9penminded #N9tPrude #Ally, there is n9thing wr9ng with finding ways t9 let 9ff steam s9l9. This is n9t t9 say that it is an act that I engage in regularly 9r even at all, as I have plenty 9f 9ther 9utlets with which t9 9ccupy my time, 6ut *if* I did, it w9uld technically 6e in keeping with my c9mmitment t9 celi6acy. 9, 10. While these are als9 technically 9kay, it is n9t an activity I'd ever participate in. I have n9 interest in self pailing in the presence 9f an9ther pers9n, regardless 9f their level 9f inv9lvement in the situati9n. 12. If I had a pr96lem with this as a c9ncept I w9uld have 6l9cked y9u and the maj9rity 9f 9ur friends a l9ng time ag9. This isn't an excuse t9 up the ante. I am just 6eing realistic. 11, 13, 14. I want t9 p9int 9ut here that there is a distinct difference 6etween intenti9nal v9yeurism and *happening* t9 enter a space where 9ne 9r m9re tr9lls are sexually stimulating themselves. 9r, w9rse, 9ccupying a space when tw9 tr9lls then decide t9 f9rnicate, ign9rant 9f the fact that y9u were there first. In the case 9f the latter tw9 examples, I am well within my rights t9 remain in the space, and if they did n9t want s9me9ne t9 9ffer an 9pini9n, disappr9ving 9r 9therwise, they w9uld have ch9sen t9 either vacate the area 9r l9ck the d99r. 15. S9metimes it's unav9ida6le. Alth9ugh I d9 wish y9u and P9rrim w9uld learn t9 6e a little m9re discreet. D9 y9u think I *want* t9 listen t9 y9u tw9 all m9rning? S9me 9f us have 6etter things t9 d9 6e d9ing with 9ur time and d9n't wish t9 6e distracted. 16. Fine, if it's purely accidental, th9ugh I w9uld exercise cauti9n anyway. S9me tr9lls' h9rns are er9gen9us z9nes and thus are particularly sensitive. See my resp9nse t9 #4. 18. This depends entirely 9n the level 9f 9penm9uthedness inv9lved. Lip-t9-lip c9ntact can indeed 6e plat9nic in s9me cultures. 19. Kissing "anywhere" 6ut the face is als9 far t99 vague f9r me t9 pr9perly 9ffer a m9re in-depth 9pini9n 9n. As a catch-all answer, h9wever, I draw the line at anything 6el9w the waist6and 9f my sensi6le high-waisted pants. 20. This is... fine? I have 9ccasi9nally shared drinking vessels with friends and it has never 9nce even cr9ssed my mind that this *c9uld* 6e sexual. If this is s9mething that m9st pe9ple interpret sexually, please let me kn9w s9 I can rectify my 6ehavi9r. #GreyAreas #EdgeCases #DiscussingEdgeCases #Edging #SelfPailing #S9me9neElsePailing #SelfPailingWithS9me9neElse #Mastur6ati9nHa6its #V9yeurism #UnwittingV9yeurism #AccidentalV9yeurism #Emphasis9nAccidental #SimulatedPailingScenari9s #Hyp9theticals #Emphasis9nHyp9theticals #Celi6acy #Chastity #A6stinence #N9nsexuality #Inc9nsiderateHivemates #G99dFaithInterpretati9ns #H9weverDeservedItMay6e
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This is super inf⚣rmative! Thanks f⚣r taking the time t⚣ address this 030
What part 9f anything I just said makes y9u think I'm g9ing t9 answer this? The status 9f my 6ulge is n9ne 9f y9ur 6usiness whats9ever, and frankly, y9u're lucky I even resp9nded t9 y9ur initial p9st instead 9f simply ign9ring it.
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In regards t9 the parameters 9f hyp9thetical #14 (and I must emphasize the w9rd *hyp9thetical* here), it isn't like I w9uld *want* t9 stick ar9und and witness the act. 6ut I als9 have a right t9 the space I 9ccupy, and it's unjust t9 expect me t9 vacate an area just 6ecause 9ther tr9lls have a p99r understanding 9f 69undaries. 9ffspectrum tr9lls such as myself are c9nstantly 6eing f9rced 9ut 9f pu6lic spaces and made t9 lessen themselves in the presence 9f 9thers, and I d9 n9t stand f9r that. If the intruding tr9lls in questi9n cann9t handle a lecture, they sh9uld have ch9sen their venue 9f f9rnicati9n m9re wisely. As f9r #9 and #10, y9u are c9rrect that intent matters. 6ut if y9u reread Damara's initial list, n9where was it stated that it w9uld 6e a requirement t9 6e thinking a69ut the 9ther pers9n. That's why I deemed it 9kay 9n a technicality even if, again, it isn't s9mething I w9uld ever ever ever ever d9.
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