Kankri V.

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T9night, I w9uld like t9 9pen up a discussi9n 9n the t9pic 9f repenting. T9 start 9ff, I w9uld like t9 pr9vide a disclaimer that, despite the religi9us c9nn9tati9n this term 9ften carries, it is imp9rtant t9 keep in mind g9ing f9rward that repentance is a wh9lly secular practice that any pers9n 9r n9n-pers9n identifying individual can participate in. I, f9r example, f9ll9w n9 religi9n 9r faith, 6ut I am a 6ig pr9p9nent 9f this idea and 6elieve m9re pe9ple w9uld 6e 6etter 9ff if they did as well. 6ut what d9es it mean t9 repent, y9u may 6e w9ndering? Well, Meriam-We6str defines repenting as "t9 feel regret 9r c9ntriti9n", 9r, "t9 change 9ne's mind". In 9ther w9rds, repentance, 9r metan9ia, means t9 rec9gnize when y9u have d9ne, th9ught, 9r felt s9mething wr9ng and t9 make a c9nsci9us eff9rt t9 change y9ur acti9ns, th9ughts, 9r feelings f9r the 6etter. If y9u want t9 lead a m9rally just life 9r unlife, as y9u sh9uld, y9u need t9 6e familiar with repenting f9r y9ur misdeeds when they 9ccur. N9ne 9f us are exempt fr9m accidentally (9r willfully) engaging in pr96lematic 6ehavi9rs, s9 when it d9es 9ccur, it's imp9rtant t9 kn9w what must 6e d9ne in 9rder t9 make up f9r said 6ehavi9rs. T9 ch99se an example that sh9uld appeal t9 the 6r9adest dem9graphic 9f Chittrers p9ssi6le, (warnings here f9r the f9ll9wing upc9ming t9pics: #NSFW #NSFWMenti9n #Impr9perSexual6ehavi9r) let's say y9u have recently engaged in an illicit dalliance with s9me9ne that y9u n9w regret 6ecause the act 9f this af9rementi9ned dalliance g9es against y9ur pers9nal c9nvicti9ns. Th9ugh this was wr9ng 9f y9u, 6ecause y9u sh9uld always stick firmly t9 y9ur pers9nal 6eliefs especially in times 9f weakness, 6y rec9gnizing that this acti9n was indeed wr9ng, y9u have already taken the first step 9n the path t9 pers9nal redempti9n. I'm s9 pr9ud 9f y9u (in a plat9nic way s9 as t9 n9t imply an unc9mf9rta6le sense 9f familiarity with y9u). Y9ur next step w9uld 6e t9 c9nfess, 9r admit t9, y9ur wr9ngd9ings t9 a trusted individual, pr9vided this individual is mentally and/9r em9ti9nally equipped t9 deal with what may end up 6eing a heavy t9pic. I rec9mmend reaching 9ut t9 a m9irail (9r a m9irailsprit, kismerail, ausprail, kismerailsprit, etc.), a cl9se plat9nic friend, a terr9rpist, an an9nym9us c9nfessi9ns 6l9g, 9r even a Chittr p9st, th9ugh wisd9m and guidance can c9me in many m9re f9rms than just this sh9rt list. In a6sence 9f any 9f the a69ve, y9u may als9 reach 9ut t9 me. As a self-app9inted and 9thers-app9inted th9ughtleader, I will 6ravely take 9n the mantle 9f 6eing a pr9ver6ial ear f9r y9u t9 c9nfess t9 if y9u have n9 9ne else t9 turn t9, 9r if I'm y9ur first ch9ice in c9nfidant, that w9uld 6e appreciated as well. Regardless 9f what f9rm it manifests, it's imperative n9t t9 let y9ur feelings 9f guilt fester, as 69ttling them up inside will weigh heavily 9n y9ur #MentalHealth. After c9nfessi9n c9mes what may 6e the trickiest part, alth9ugh I d9n't want t9 make any assumpti9ns (#Assumpti9ns) 9n y9ur 6ehalf. I 9nly say this 6ecause I kn9w a l9t 9f tr9lls with str9ng senses 9f pride that make this difficult f9r them. This is when y9u ap9l9gize t9 the 9ffended parties, if applica6le, and t9 y9urself. In 9ur given example, y9u w9uld ap9l9gize t9 y9ur affair partner that y9u have 6etrayed y9ur 9wn values 6y inv9lving them in such a salaci9us act. (If any9ne needs tips 9n h9w t9 appr9priately ap9l9gize t9 s9me9ne else f9r the err9rs 9f 9ne's ways, I will make a f9ll9w up p9st if en9ugh interest is expressed.) Remem6er that y9u are n9t entitled t9 f9rgiveness, n9r sh9uld y9u ap9l9gize with the s9le intent t9 6e f9rgiven. Y9u are d9ing it 6ecause it's the right thing t9 d9 regardless. 9nce this is d9ne, 9r if there is n9 additi9nal party y9u need t9 ap9l9gize t9, y9u can then ap9l9gize t9 y9urself. As l9ng as y9u truly 6elieve y9ur 9wn s9rr9w, y9u may f9rgive y9urself. Lastly, 6ut m9st crucially, y9u must res9lve y9urself t9 change y9ur mindset *and* y9ur 6ehavi9r and never make the same mistake twice. Th9ugh this s9unds self-explanat9ry, I'll explain it anyway f9r th9se 9f y9u f9r wh9m "self-explanat9ry" rarely ever is. What this means is f9r y9u t9 c9mmit t9 turning away fr9m the negative acti9n, th9ught, 9r feeling that y9u c9mmitted earlier and replacing the 6ehavi9r with s9mething p9sitive. In 9ur example, s9me9ne struggling with inappr9priate sexual desires might ch99se instead t9 find healthier 9utlets f9r their desires, such as ch99sing t9 9nly engage in intimate relati9ns with dedicated quadrantmates 9r a6staining fr9m all f9rms 9f sexual activity and instead channeling that frustrati9n int9 an educati9nal pursuit 9r a practical h966y like knitting. Whatever y9ur res9luti9n is, the key is t9 c9mmit y9urself t9 it s9 y9u can keep living 9r unliving y9ur life 9r unlife free 9f pr96lematic 6ehavi9r g9ing f9rward. If y9u'd like t9 kn9w m9re 9r need s9me9ne t9 c9nfess t9, feel free t9 leave a c9mment 6el9w. Additi9nally, my DMs are currently 9pen. Happy repenting, every9ne. #Repentance #Metan9ia #F9rgiveness #Guilt #Shame #Menti9ns9fReligi9n #ReclaimedTerms