@quadrantConundrums — #advice
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "how Do You Break Someone To The Point That The Blackest Of Hatred Towards You Is All They Have Left?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice That Is Not A Healthy #kismesistude! Please Do Not Do That!
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "in Middle School I Knew A Guy Who Had A Kismesis Crush On Me. I Am Starting To Get A Hunch That He Still Has One! Or Maybe It's A New Crush? How Do I Know If He Likes (hates?) Me Or Not. And What Do I Do If He Does!!!" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice It Is Always Best To Assume That This Is A New #pitch Crush And Not The Old One, Though There Still May Be Lingering Feelings Back From Your Schoolfeeding Days That Have Fed Into These Feelings. That's Okay! You Just Have To Make Sure To Reel In Your Expectations. To Figure Out If He Likes You, You Can Either Directly Ask Him Or Start Pitch Flirting! Give ...Read more
Okay. Okay.. This One Took Quite A While To Think Of Because We Had To Confer The Best Way To Answer. ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "everyone Hates My Matesprit. His Divisive Nature Wasn't Really Something That Impacted The Actual Relationship, But Now I'm Having Doubts. I'm Starting To Worry They're Right About Him. I Feel Brushed Aside. I Feel Like He's, Intentionally Or Not, Dangling His Attention Over My Head, Making Me Jump For It. It's All Really Starting To Impact Me, And I Feel Like I Can't Even Talk To Anyone About It Because They'll Jump To Telling Me To Finally Dump Him. Worst Of All, I Worry That If I Bring It Up...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "hi. Ive Never Had A Red Relationship And Now Im In One. What The Fuck Do I…do." ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice It Is Entirely Natural To Panic When Entering Your First #red Relationship, But First Please Try To Calm Down. Remember That This Person Chose You, They Wanted You, They Wanted What You Had To Give. They Could Have Chosen Anyone But They Chose You And That Means That They Love You And Like You And You Are The Object Of Their Pity. Once You Take A Deep Breath, Think About The Things You Would Like To Do. Spend Time With Them, Hold Them, Pap Them When They're Sad And Be Cuddled When You Are. A...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "there's Someone Else At My Office That Really Catches My Eye. But They Keep Wasting Time With Some.. Less Than Ideal.. Attempts.. And Its Sad To Watch" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice #redrom #matesprit @infelicitousfreak Do You Mean Attempts With Other People, Or Some Attempts With You That Are Not Quite To Your Standard? If The First, Then That May Mean They Are Just Not Interested In You, Or You Have Not Yet Caught Their Eye. Let Your Interest Be Known. Let Them Know That You Have Taken A Liking Towards Them! If It Is The Latter Then Make It Known That You Are Not Impressed, But You Do Want The...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "i Am... Heh, Safe To Say, Chronically Inexperienced With Quad Activities. But Uhh... I Got A Pitch Date With This Fuchsia Soon. Nervous Because I Don't Want To Fuck It Up. How Does One... Get Pitch With It?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice Forgive The Quick Response, We Just Got Done With Our Inbox And You Happen To Pop Up While We Were Clearing Out! ( Lucky You ^^ ) The Important Part Is To Make Sure You're Going At Your Own Pace. Even With A Fuchsia You Need To Stand Your Ground And Make Your Intentions Known, If Something Is Too Far For You, If You Enjoy Something, Etc. ~ Note: The Fuchsia On Our T...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "i Have Known My Kismesis For Roughly Ten Sweeps And I Am Concerned That We Are Drifting Apart Due To Our Hatred Becoming Stale I Struggle To Regard Her As Anything But My Closest And Dearest Friend As Shameful As That Is We Have Known Each Other For So Long I Cannot Think Of Her Any Other Way And I Am Frustrated With My Desire To Pap Or Console Her Through Every Day Struggles Rather Than Snip Or Berate Her Should I Make These Feelings Known Or Should I End This Relationship Or Is There Another Way I Can Rekindle Our Pitch Relationship I Do Not Want To Lose Her But I Am Terrified Of A Life Witho...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "i Can't Tell If I Have A Crush On This.. Jadeblood I Know. It Feels Like Possibly Too Soon As My Quardants Always Fail And It's Likely My Fault. I Can't Tell If He Likes Me Back. I Think He's Handsome And I Enjoy His Voice. It's Really Calming And I Can't Tell If It's Just Me Being An Idiot Or It's Pale Or Is It Flush Or If It Is Anything Of The Sort. It Feels Too Soon. I Don't Want To Hurt Him And It Feels Like I Always Hurt People I Love And I Dont Mean To- I Love Him Enough To Try To Be Pleasant To Be Around- I Mean I Always Fall In Love With People Easily No Matter If I'm In An Quardant And I D...Read more
#emergency #advice ??? ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "What Do You Do When An Omniscient Being Takes Interest In You Pitch Ways?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ Pray. Are You Okay, Do You Need Help?? On Another Note This May Be An Accidentally Wonderful Thing- Imagine Someone Knowing Everything About You, Both Things You Know And Don't Know, Things You'll Do And Won't Do, And Yet Still Being Filled With Pitch Hate For You. That Sounds Magnificent. It Would Be Double Edged Though, As They Would Know Just How You Will React And Know How To Get Specific Actions From You.. Meaning They Make All The Decisions Truly. If They Are A Good ...Read more
Another Short One, So We Will Have 3 Today! ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "Need A Kismesis So Bad But My Species Doesn't Have Quadrants" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice Take Part Anyway! Find Other People That Are Like-minded In Your Own Species, Or Get Involved With Trollkind! Cross-species Fraternisation Should Not Be Frowned Upon! Though If You Do End Up With A Troll, Please Be Made Aware That As A Combat-focused Species We Have Tougher Skin, Teeth, And Bodies In General So If You Are Human ( Like We Suspect ) You Will Need To Negotiate Boundaries. I Have Also Been Informed By Alec, Our Resident Human, That Trolls Do Not H...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "Can We Mhave Multiple Matesprits We Want Everyone So Mucchhh, Theyre All So Pretty And Cute Can We Just Propose To Them All And Take Turns Kissin Eachother" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ Once Again We Don't Have #advice But We Do Have An #opinion. Yes!! As Long As All The People In The #quadrant Are Aware Of Each Other And Consent To Being In The Situation, There Is No Problem With This! For Example, Three Of #teamquad Are In A #polyamorous #moiraillgiance. It Is A Quad-by-quad Opinion And You Can Be Poly-#pale Without Being Poly-#red, The Same Goes For The Other Quadrants Too! You Could Be Poly In All Of ...Read more
I Don't Think I'm Qualified For This One, But We Do Have A Jade On #teamquad Who Works In The Caverns So I Will Be Doing My Best To Translate Their Rambles! ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "Wh⛧t The F█ck Is Even Th█ P⛧int ⛧f Th█ R█d ⛧nd L█ss R█d Q█⛧dr⛧nts, Why H⛧ve ⛧nything ⛧th█r Th⛧n Pure H⛧t█ H⛧nestly????" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ ~ @bloodiedwings Not So Much #advice As This Is Just #information Or #guidance. This Will Delve Into Slight #nsfw Language. #pale And #flushed Relationships Are Actually Very Important To The Continued Existence Of The Species! #matesprits And #moirails Fill In A Gap In Our Society Reserved For The Need T...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "Someone Has Pale Feelings For Me.. But I Don't Like Them Like That. They're A Good Friend! We Spend Quite A Bit Of Time Together Because We Have A Quad With The Same Guy- I'm Not Worried About The State Of Any Of That Because We're All Mature And Whatever. It's Just That I'm Pale For Someone Else- We're Not Official Yet So I Haven't Said Anything But We're Obviously Getting There. What.. What Do??" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ ~ This Question Has Been Edited To Protect The Identity Of The User. #advice Oh What A Doozy. Do They Know You Know? If So Then This Is Very Awkward.. If Not.. Are You Sure They Fee...Read more
Um- Our Quad Professional ( Mea ) Is Still Sick ( She Has An Infection (｡ŏ﹏ŏ) ) And With Vraz ( Our Grouchy Guppy ) Being Banned From Answering For Being Unprofessional, I Suppose It's My Turn To Try And Answer.. So! ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "My Kismesis And I Got In A Fight, But Not Like Our Normal Fun Fights. I Got Really Upset With Her But Then She Said She Needed Space And Its Been Weeks & I'm Fine Now I'm Ready To Talk But She Still Needs Space? She's Like "working On Herself" Or Some Bullshit And I'm 90% Sure She's Talking To Someone Really Dangerous. How Long Do I Let This Go On Before I Just Threaten To Break Up ...Read more
I've Been Told I Was Too Blunt And Casual So I'll Have To Break Out My Fancy Wiggler Teachings For The Next One I Guess ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "Multiple Partners In One Quad, How We Feeling About That?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ One Is Not Sure This Is Admissible As #advice But It Is Certainly An #opinion. It Cannot Be Discounted That The Nature Of #quadrants Already Leads To Inclusion Of Multiple Partners With Oneself, Even If They Are Separated Into The Categories. Therefore It Would Seem Permissible To Allow Multiple Relationships Into One Quadrant As Long As All Parties Are Informed And Assenting. Aka; As Long As Everyo...Read more
Mea Is Out Sick For The Second Day In A Row So I Guess I'm Taking Over For The Next Few. ⋆♤˚⟡˖ "So What Is Your Opinion On Black-red Vacillation?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice #opinion If Both People Are Enjoying It, And You Aren't Getting #culled By #drones, You Don't Need To Worry. Live Out Your #pitch Hatred By Roughing Each Other Up Then Get That #flushed Comfort By Fixing Each Other Up And Being Overly #red After. Who Cares? ♠ #quadrantconundrums ♥
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "I'm Starting To Feel Like My Auspistice Has Been Getting Flushed For Me, And To Be Honest I've Not Been Feeling Ashen For Them... But Pale. Are We Doomed?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice I Am.. So Sorry, But I Think You Might Be.. Okay, Maybe Not Completely- A Lot Of #pale Affection Can Be Mistaken For #flushed Depending On The Lens, So I Think It Is Definitely Worth Sitting Down And Talking To Each Other About Just How Pink The Territory You're Getting Into Is. One Of My Fellow #teamquad Have Told Me To Tell You To Get It Done Before #pailingseason Starts, Just In Case, Since Even A Pale Quadran...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "I Care Deeply About My Moirail... But I Keep Thinking About How Much More Fun We Could Have If They Were My Kismesis Instead. Is That Bad?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice Not At All! This Is Once Again An Example Of #quadrantmixing. It Is Completely Natural For #red And #black Feelings To Bleed Into A #pale Relationship. After All, Moirails Take Up A Concupiscent Role When The Other Two Are Unavailable! As For How To Deal With This, You Can Still Do Black Or Red Actions In A Pale Relationship, And It Still Be Purely Pale, As Long As That Is How You Both Feel! From Your Wording It Sounds Like You ...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "My Ex-matesprit Left Me How Do I Get Her Back? Is There A Going Back?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ ~ This Question Has Been Edited To Protect The Identity Of The User #advice Well, Darling, That Entirely Depends On Two Factors. How Did You Break Up And How Long Ago Was It? ~ If It Was More Than A Perigree Ago, You Should Probably Try To Move On. ~ If The Break Up Was Messy, Or In Any Way Negative Or Bitter, I Would Also Try To Move On. ~ If It Was Both #amicable And Less Than A Few Days Ago, Then Sit Her Down And Talk It Out! Tell Her You Still Love Her, You Want To Still Be #red, And Talk About What Caus...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "My Kismesis Hasn't Been Sending Me The Same Kind Of Hate They've Usually Been Giving And I'm Starting To Get Worried That I'm Not Good Enough For Them Anymore? We Used To Be Really Good With Jumping Each Other In The Street But Recently I've Noticed They're Not Scratching Me As Deep And Their Insults Have Gotten... Really Mediocre Compared To What We're Used To And It's Messing With Me. What Should I Do?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice #suggestive? Okay, First Things First You Need To Not Panic. A Lack Of Black Affection Does Not Necessarily Mean Feelings Have Changed! Once You Have Calmed Down, Ask Y...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "What Does One Do If, For The Sake Of A Hypothetical Situation Rather Than A True To Life Experience, They Experienced Interest For One Individual In All Four Quadrants?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ ~ This Question Has Been Edited To Protect The Identity Of The User #advice While Fairly Taboo In Most Places, We Here At #teamquad Actually Have A Human In Our Ranks! This Means We Have A Unique Insight Into #quadrantmixing, A Subject That Often Has To Pried Out Of Our Fellow Trolls As If By An Imperial Investigator. We Understand The Struggles That May Come From Having Such Mixed Feelings About A Person. #re...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "I'm Worried That My Career Has Turned Away Potential Quadmates, Even The Conciliatory Ones. How Do Deal With This..? I Don't Want To Quit, I Enjoy My Work." ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice Well That Is Quite The Conundrum.. If You Enjoy Your Work Then Don't Give It Up, Remember That A #quadrant Is Never A Replacement For A Fulfilling Life! It Should Enhance Your Time On The Planet, Not Be Its Only Purpose. That Being Said, Have People Actually Told You This Or Is It An Assumption You're Making Yourself? No Matter Which, The Right Troll Will Come Along. Don't Ever Change Yourself To Fit What Someon...Read more
⋆♤˚⟡˖ "What Do You Do If You Want Someone To Hate You, But You Feel Something Closer To… Admiration For Them?" ˖⟡˚ ♤ ⋆ #advice Great Question! First You Have To Figure Out If This Admiration Is Of A #red Or #black Variety. Is This An Admiration Of Their Actions And Character? Or Is It Of Their Physical Prowess? If You Think About The Reasons For Your Feelings Do They Feel Like Your Chest Aches In Want Or Is There A Bubbling In The Pit Of Your Stomach? Either Way, Don't Be Afraid To Explore This Feeling Within Your Sponge. Sit With It, Allow Yourself To Be Alone With Your Thoughts, Do They ...Read more